Comments on: The Plasticity of Personality and the Power of Extroversion http://www.fabricegrinda.com/personal-musings/the-plasticity-of-personality-and-the-power-of-extroversion/ Mon, 21 May 2012 21:33:19 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: Joana http://www.fabricegrinda.com/personal-musings/the-plasticity-of-personality-and-the-power-of-extroversion/comment-page-1/#comment-18095 Joana Sat, 28 Apr 2012 22:07:17 +0000 http://www.fabricegrinda.com/?p=505#comment-18095 I was always an extrovert, and I still had to work out my fear of rejection, also by embracing it. That insecurity is not particular to introverts, trust me! The biggest mouths tend to be the most insecure of us all. It's only when you understand rejection does not mean failure, and says more about the person turning you down (it says they don't especially appreciate you or your company, for whatever personal reason of theirs) than about you (it does not mean you are ugly, stupid or not worthy of love, admiration or desire), that you can get over that fear. We can all change or evolve to grow into the people we want to be, indeed. Exercise of the mind. And although we don't need to change, we can' help it either - no man is an island. So it's best to choose the direction of that internal change. And as you wisely pointed out nothing should ever be regretted along the path, or we would not have gotten to the great place we are, the right here right now. The only difference between you and most people (extroverts included) is you are open and genuine about your former insecurities, a sign of real self confidence. I was always an extrovert, and I still had to work out my fear of rejection, also by embracing it. That insecurity is not particular to introverts, trust me! The biggest mouths tend to be the most insecure of us all.
It’s only when you understand rejection does not mean failure, and says more about the person turning you down (it says they don’t especially appreciate you or your company, for whatever personal reason of theirs) than about you (it does not mean you are ugly, stupid or not worthy of love, admiration or desire), that you can get over that fear.
We can all change or evolve to grow into the people we want to be, indeed. Exercise of the mind. And although we don’t need to change, we can’ help it either – no man is an island. So it’s best to choose the direction of that internal change. And as you wisely pointed out nothing should ever be regretted along the path, or we would not have gotten to the great place we are, the right here right now.
The only difference between you and most people (extroverts included) is you are open and genuine about your former insecurities, a sign of real self confidence.

]]> By: Qué tan importante es ser sociable en el laburo? : de9a6.com.ar http://www.fabricegrinda.com/personal-musings/the-plasticity-of-personality-and-the-power-of-extroversion/comment-page-1/#comment-7417 Qué tan importante es ser sociable en el laburo? : de9a6.com.ar Fri, 21 Aug 2009 02:50:34 +0000 http://www.fabricegrinda.com/?p=505#comment-7417 [...] Un essay de Fabrice Grinda donde cuenta como hizo para dejar su timidez para adaptarse e integrarse al mundo de los negocios me motivó a escribir este post.  [...] [...] Un essay de Fabrice Grinda donde cuenta como hizo para dejar su timidez para adaptarse e integrarse al mundo de los negocios me motivó a escribir este post.  [...]

]]> By: Nate http://www.fabricegrinda.com/personal-musings/the-plasticity-of-personality-and-the-power-of-extroversion/comment-page-1/#comment-7241 Nate Wed, 08 Jul 2009 17:31:09 +0000 http://www.fabricegrinda.com/?p=505#comment-7241 Ha! Surprising how similar your experience sounds to mine. I grew up completely introverted, spent my time with a couple really good friends and video games, besides my studies... I did Computer Science in college (working on a Masters now) and I've just recently, over the past couple years, realized that I'm actually very extroverted. I went from INTP to ENTP. One thought I've had is that I always wanted to be with people, I always enjoyed their company, but I was a _shy_ extrovert. : ) So when I learned to overcome my discomfort with and even fear of people, I found it more fulfilling to be with them than on my own. I'm not quite to the point of asking 1000 girls out, but I should try that. ; ) On the other hand, I have friends that are comfortable enough around people but really do need more time alone. I guess I view them as socially able introverts, as opposed to myself when younger (a socially inable extrovert, ha ha) Ha! Surprising how similar your experience sounds to mine. I grew up completely introverted, spent my time with a couple really good friends and video games, besides my studies… I did Computer Science in college (working on a Masters now) and I’ve just recently, over the past couple years, realized that I’m actually very extroverted. I went from INTP to ENTP.

One thought I’ve had is that I always wanted to be with people, I always enjoyed their company, but I was a _shy_ extrovert. : ) So when I learned to overcome my discomfort with and even fear of people, I found it more fulfilling to be with them than on my own. I’m not quite to the point of asking 1000 girls out, but I should try that. ; )

On the other hand, I have friends that are comfortable enough around people but really do need more time alone. I guess I view them as socially able introverts, as opposed to myself when younger (a socially inable extrovert, ha ha)

]]> By: Andrew http://www.fabricegrinda.com/personal-musings/the-plasticity-of-personality-and-the-power-of-extroversion/comment-page-1/#comment-7094 Andrew Sat, 02 May 2009 20:58:35 +0000 http://www.fabricegrinda.com/?p=505#comment-7094 Interesting, when I read the first part of the post, I thought you must be an INTJ, just like me ... I am also trying to be more capable in social settings. You said you still prefer to have some time alone. That means you may still be an "I" inside. But you have "acquired" the social skills. That is the fantastic part of being an INTJ. Superior learning ability! Interesting, when I read the first part of the post, I thought you must be an INTJ, just like me … I am also trying to be more capable in social settings.

You said you still prefer to have some time alone. That means you may still be an “I” inside. But you have “acquired” the social skills. That is the fantastic part of being an INTJ. Superior learning ability!

]]> By: Lo más importante para ser exitoso en una compañía es como nos desempeñamos socialmente? « de Project Management ! http://www.fabricegrinda.com/personal-musings/the-plasticity-of-personality-and-the-power-of-extroversion/comment-page-1/#comment-6562 Lo más importante para ser exitoso en una compañía es como nos desempeñamos socialmente? « de Project Management ! Sat, 17 Jan 2009 21:25:09 +0000 http://www.fabricegrinda.com/?p=505#comment-6562 [...] leyendo un essay de Fabrice Grinda donde cuenta como hizo para dejar su timidez y adaptarse al mundo de los [...] [...] leyendo un essay de Fabrice Grinda donde cuenta como hizo para dejar su timidez y adaptarse al mundo de los [...]

]]> By: Valerie http://www.fabricegrinda.com/personal-musings/the-plasticity-of-personality-and-the-power-of-extroversion/comment-page-1/#comment-6509 Valerie Fri, 09 Jan 2009 01:10:35 +0000 http://www.fabricegrinda.com/?p=505#comment-6509 Very interesting thesis and I've found it to be true in my life as well. I oscillate between INFP ENFP. My change first happened last year after seeing my first 10,000 patients (not unlike your social experiment - seems a critical mass of experience is necessary, for some more is needed than for others who are perhaps more social at baseline). The solid I was replaced by a decent-sized E! Curious, though, that you shifted the N/S. Were you pretty balanced there to start with? I, for instance, am reliably NFP for the 8 years that I've tested it - never seems to change. At any rate, cool musings - happy new year! Very interesting thesis and I’ve found it to be true in my life as well. I oscillate between INFP ENFP. My change first happened last year after seeing my first 10,000 patients (not unlike your social experiment – seems a critical mass of experience is necessary, for some more is needed than for others who are perhaps more social at baseline). The solid I was replaced by a decent-sized E!

Curious, though, that you shifted the N/S. Were you pretty balanced there to start with? I, for instance, am reliably NFP for the 8 years that I’ve tested it – never seems to change.

At any rate, cool musings – happy new year!

]]> By: Fabrice Grinda: Musings of an Entrepreneur » Looking back at 2008, looking forward to 2009 http://www.fabricegrinda.com/personal-musings/the-plasticity-of-personality-and-the-power-of-extroversion/comment-page-1/#comment-6506 Fabrice Grinda: Musings of an Entrepreneur » Looking back at 2008, looking forward to 2009 Thu, 08 Jan 2009 22:41:29 +0000 http://www.fabricegrinda.com/?p=505#comment-6506 [...] The Plasticity of Personality and the Power of Extroversion [...] [...] The Plasticity of Personality and the Power of Extroversion [...]

]]> By: Fabrice Grinda http://www.fabricegrinda.com/personal-musings/the-plasticity-of-personality-and-the-power-of-extroversion/comment-page-1/#comment-5724 Fabrice Grinda Sun, 24 Aug 2008 07:07:58 +0000 http://www.fabricegrinda.com/?p=505#comment-5724 Ben: I agree. My point is more than people can change if they want to, rather than they need to change. Ben: I agree. My point is more than people can change if they want to, rather than they need to change.

]]> By: Ben http://www.fabricegrinda.com/personal-musings/the-plasticity-of-personality-and-the-power-of-extroversion/comment-page-1/#comment-5723 Ben Sun, 24 Aug 2008 07:01:19 +0000 http://www.fabricegrinda.com/?p=505#comment-5723 Interestingly, from my perspective, you haven't changed much. As revealed by the personality test, the only change is from introversion to extroversion. That's often a natural tendency as we get older, and it's gradually happening in myself, just as it gradually happened with my mom (who has similarly gone from INTJ to ENTJ over her lifetime, and I expect to move slowly in that direction as well). You accelerated the process, but your fundamental ways of thinking are unchanged as far as I can tell. That's not a bad thing, and it can even be a good thing because our weaknesses are often also our strengths. For example, introversion can actually be a positive depending on your line of work. Extroverts go crazy when faced with a job that doesn't involve much daily human contact, while an introvert thrives. In terms of advising others, I would be careful. Unless an individual has firmly decided their destiny lies in a field that doesn't match their natural tendencies, why not have them embrace their natural gifts and pursue the career best suited to them? Society needs all types of people, not just entrepreneurs. Interestingly, from my perspective, you haven’t changed much. As revealed by the personality test, the only change is from introversion to extroversion. That’s often a natural tendency as we get older, and it’s gradually happening in myself, just as it gradually happened with my mom (who has similarly gone from INTJ to ENTJ over her lifetime, and I expect to move slowly in that direction as well).

You accelerated the process, but your fundamental ways of thinking are unchanged as far as I can tell. That’s not a bad thing, and it can even be a good thing because our weaknesses are often also our strengths. For example, introversion can actually be a positive depending on your line of work. Extroverts go crazy when faced with a job that doesn’t involve much daily human contact, while an introvert thrives.

In terms of advising others, I would be careful. Unless an individual has firmly decided their destiny lies in a field that doesn’t match their natural tendencies, why not have them embrace their natural gifts and pursue the career best suited to them? Society needs all types of people, not just entrepreneurs.

]]> By: cem sertoglu http://www.fabricegrinda.com/personal-musings/the-plasticity-of-personality-and-the-power-of-extroversion/comment-page-1/#comment-5698 cem sertoglu Mon, 18 Aug 2008 07:09:34 +0000 http://www.fabricegrinda.com/?p=505#comment-5698 i wonder how the behavior of people who surround you has shifted in the same time period. earlier years tend to be more brutal in terms of how candid the feedback from your peers. for the more shy personality, it may be, in part, the fear of that feedback that keeps them away fromt he postlight. particularly in the more civil circles, that feedback gets more filtered, especially as you succeed in the eyes of your peers. i wonder how the behavior of people who surround you has shifted in the same time period. earlier years tend to be more brutal in terms of how candid the feedback from your peers. for the more shy personality, it may be, in part, the fear of that feedback that keeps them away fromt he postlight.

particularly in the more civil circles, that feedback gets more filtered, especially as you succeed in the eyes of your peers.

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