Comments on: The Science of Happiness http://www.fabricegrinda.com/happiness/the-science-of-happiness/ Fri, 12 Mar 2010 19:23:42 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Yendi Dial http://www.fabricegrinda.com/happiness/the-science-of-happiness/comment-page-1/#comment-3191 Yendi Dial Fri, 16 Mar 2007 19:24:04 +0000 http://www.fabricegrinda.com/?p=181#comment-3191 very interesting indeed, children (from my experience) bring both negative: moments of stress, arguments, noise, chaos, conflicts, anger, etc... every day, and all together (on top of the traditional routine) these negative times amount to a daily 30 minutes (rough estimate). positive: moments of pure joy and ecstasy, great intimacy, sharing life values, discovering emotions, learning, and personal development through their constant questioning, deep and genuine insights of our selves and our world, nearly everyday for a few minutes. So you would say that mathematically speaking the negatives win, and you are right, I understand why people do not want children. very interesting indeed, children (from my experience) bring both
negative:
moments of stress, arguments, noise, chaos, conflicts, anger, etc… every day, and all together (on top of the traditional routine) these negative times amount to a daily 30 minutes (rough estimate).
positive: moments of pure joy and ecstasy, great intimacy, sharing life values, discovering emotions, learning, and personal development through their constant questioning, deep and genuine insights of our selves and our world, nearly everyday for a few minutes.
So you would say that mathematically speaking the negatives win, and you are right, I understand why people do not want children.

]]> By: Adrian Crook http://www.fabricegrinda.com/happiness/the-science-of-happiness/comment-page-1/#comment-3181 Adrian Crook Wed, 14 Mar 2007 01:15:43 +0000 http://www.fabricegrinda.com/?p=181#comment-3181 Paul - yes, my wife and I were surprised to see kids listed as a negative on the happiness scale. I think you're right... if you adapt positively to the lifestyle changes kids necessitate, you'll be happy. If you still pine for unfettered nights out and loads of discretionary income, then you will likely be less happy. :) Paul – yes, my wife and I were surprised to see kids listed as a negative on the happiness scale. I think you’re right… if you adapt positively to the lifestyle changes kids necessitate, you’ll be happy. If you still pine for unfettered nights out and loads of discretionary income, then you will likely be less happy. :)

]]> By: Yong http://www.fabricegrinda.com/happiness/the-science-of-happiness/comment-page-1/#comment-3180 Yong Tue, 13 Mar 2007 21:49:14 +0000 http://www.fabricegrinda.com/?p=181#comment-3180 I read Flow: Psychology of Optimal Experience a long while back and positive psychology has come a long way since. It's finally getting the center stage spotlight it deserves! I read Flow: Psychology of Optimal Experience a long while back and positive psychology has come a long way since. It’s finally getting the center stage spotlight it deserves!

]]> By: Sven http://www.fabricegrinda.com/happiness/the-science-of-happiness/comment-page-1/#comment-3179 Sven Tue, 13 Mar 2007 17:20:01 +0000 http://www.fabricegrinda.com/?p=181#comment-3179 Thanks for these, most interesting pursuit of all. FYI, article and whole dossier in the Economist week of December 22nd 06(?) on the subject, including the first return to the Hedonistic calculation method of grading hapiness based upon inflections in the muscles when the subject smiles. One shall hence be able to measure effectively the effect of anything on hapiness. And how much hapier is one buying a brand X car 10 times the price of a brand Y car: a little :-) Thanks for these, most interesting pursuit of all.
FYI, article and whole dossier in the Economist week of December 22nd 06(?) on the subject, including the first return to the Hedonistic calculation method of grading hapiness based upon inflections in the muscles when the subject smiles.
One shall hence be able to measure effectively the effect of anything on hapiness.
And how much hapier is one buying a brand X car 10 times the price of a brand Y car: a little :-)

]]> By: Paul Magee http://www.fabricegrinda.com/happiness/the-science-of-happiness/comment-page-1/#comment-3175 Paul Magee Tue, 13 Mar 2007 12:54:47 +0000 http://www.fabricegrinda.com/?p=181#comment-3175 Fabrice, I still have the PDF on happiness from that investment company on my desktop, I read it regularly! Being a parent I would have to say that the dip in reported happiness is most likely down to some of those other factors like finance, social relationships and particularly lack os sleep rather than being the result of the 'child' itself. I think most of us have been conditioned that the job and the car and the fancy restaurants are the keys to happiness, and all these things are effected and restricted with the birth of a child. I think how the parents adapt their lives is then the key to happiness. It's easy enough to adapt around a child if thats what you want. It's harder if money is seen as more important than the child, because that will just create a very tough work routine which will result in years of very little sleep. Fabrice, I still have the PDF on happiness from that investment company on my desktop, I read it regularly!

Being a parent I would have to say that the dip in reported happiness is most likely down to some of those other factors like finance, social relationships and particularly lack os sleep rather than being the result of the ‘child’ itself.

I think most of us have been conditioned that the job and the car and the fancy restaurants are the keys to happiness, and all these things are effected and restricted with the birth of a child.

I think how the parents adapt their lives is then the key to happiness. It’s easy enough to adapt around a child if thats what you want.

It’s harder if money is seen as more important than the child, because that will just create a very tough work routine which will result in years of very little sleep.

]]> By: Adrian Crook http://www.fabricegrinda.com/happiness/the-science-of-happiness/comment-page-1/#comment-3174 Adrian Crook Tue, 13 Mar 2007 06:36:27 +0000 http://www.fabricegrinda.com/?p=181#comment-3174 Hi Fabrice, Thanks for the article. I printed it out and read it at home this evening. Some similar concepts to a book I just finished reading: Paradox of Choice by Barry Schwartz. Anyway, good stuff. Adrian Hi Fabrice,

Thanks for the article. I printed it out and read it at home this evening. Some similar concepts to a book I just finished reading: Paradox of Choice by Barry Schwartz.

Anyway, good stuff.

Adrian

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